Dear Self, I Love You! Keep Going!: 365 Inspiring Notes from My Bittersweet Year of Heartbreak and Healing


Dear Self, I love You! Keep Going! is a collection of encouragements I wrote to myself each day through my year of grief to remind me that I am lovable, that life is amazing, and to be brave.

These Notes helped me remember who I am, heal my broken heart, and embrace the beauty of my own exquisitely flawed humanity.

My heart was broken because of a failed marriage, but none of us lives unscathed by life’s disappointments (big and small), self-doubt, and the long list of things we wish we had done differently. In moments when life feels the hardest, there’s an easy decision to make: continue to criticize ourselves for our failings, or open ourselves to the possibility that, yeah, we’ve made (and will continue to make) mistakes, but we just might be lovable anyway.

I hope that this collection of Notes will serve as a daily reminder to speak more kindly to yourself, to love yourself, to embrace life, and no matter what, to keep going! Sometimes life feels painful or hard, but you are stronger, braver, and more powerful than you think, and no matter what you have done or will do you are worthy of your own love.



On a warm, September day with a broken heart and my eyes swollen from tears, I realized something profound. In spite of my humanity, my imperfections, and all the ways I’d gone wrong in my life, I loved myself.

I’m not sure if it was a wonderful or terrible moment to realize such a thing, but I guess it was as good a moment as any since my husband had recently filed for divorce and I felt I might never be loved by anyone else ever again.

From the outside looking in, what anyone who might have happened by my bedroom window that day would have witnessed is a seemingly crazy person speaking words of reassurance and love to herself in a mirror. But the truth is, that’s exactly how I began to realize I was going to be okay without his love as I already had my own.

As a fierce overachiever, I’m naturally hard on myself—like really, really hard. In a moment of heart-rending grief, a gentle voice inside nudged me to see myself with loving eyes. And instead of tearing myself down with self-critical thoughts about how I’d failed in my marriage, I began to build myself up with words of love about the amazing, beautiful, and powerful woman I was becoming.

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